“they have a separate group chat without me”

9/3/23

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I have this group of friends and they are all a bit closer to each other but we still hang out a bit and talk at school. However, they always tend to do things after events we attended together and not invite me or have sleepovers and they say it’s because I’m “always with my boyfriend” but they never ask or anything and they try not to talk about it in front of me they also have a separate group chat without me. Should I stop being friends with them?

Our Advice:

I totally understand what it's like to be left out of a friend group and then be met with excuses when you try to bring it up. First off, I want you to know that their behavior has nothing to do with you! It’s a reflection of themselves and you shouldn’t feel like you did anything to make them treat you this way. To be honest, these people don’t really sound like your friends at all. A true friend group should make you feel loved and included, so if you don’t feel like their friendship is doing that for you, it might be best to let it go.

I would take some time to evaluate how you feel about each of them. If you decide that you don’t want to be a part of the group anymore that doesn’t mean that you have to cut all of them off. Maybe you could stay on okay terms with them or maybe just a one-on-one friendship could work out better with someone in the group. Just remember that you don’t owe anyone anything. It’s all up to you and whether or not these friendships make you feel good.