nothing changes if nothing changes — how to make changes in your life

Despite how scary and difficult it often is, making changes in our lives is necessary for growth and becoming the best version of ourselves.

Wether it’s an attachment holding us back from making these changes, an irrational fear or the lack of motivation — we’ve all struggled with this at some point in our lives.

But whenever there is an aspect of my life that leaves me feeling discontent in whatever way, I look within my self to see if theres any way to change it rather than blaming it on external factors.

It’s our human nature to find excuses or pin a situations outcome on another person, but the things that happen to us are usually not in our control. What IS in our control, though, is how we choose to respond.

Our responses ellicit changes, which can either positively or negatively impact our lives depending on our perspective and how we decide to combat obstacles and overcome struggles.

What I’ve learned is our responses are basically a two-lane street. It’s either feeling sorry for myself and not taking action, or choosing to LEARN from the situation, and understand that so much of life and my happiness is not based on my actions but my REACTIONS instead.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

You are bound to feel upset, sad or hurt as a result of various arguments, losses, bad grades, etc. — but there’s so much you can change in order to prevent it from occuring in the future or, if it’s inevitable, percieving it from a different viewpoint.

What I like to remember is that I have so much more control over my suffering than I think. My suffering and pain derives from my own brain, and I truly believe that in almost any situation, I can maintain a positive mindset because we suffer more in IMAGINATION than in reality.

I’m the only one who has control over my own thoughts and brain — so therefore nothing external can truly bother me if I don’t let it. We are humans and because of this, it’s impossible NOT to get sad or anxious occasionally, but having this perspective helps place a sense of “meaning” behind these negative emotions.

“I’m feeling ___ because it’s teaching me ____.” Rather than, “I’m feeling ____ because everything sucks, and I can’t do anything about it.”

If there is a person in your life that is depleting your energy or prohibiting you from becoming the best, most fullfilled version of yourself — STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THEM!!

Your instinct knows best, even if you try to convince your brain otherwise. You have the control and ability to remove that person if necessary.

If you continue to get bad grades in a class you do not apply yourself in and it’s leaving you feeling upset — then you have to CHOOSE to work harder.

You cannot wish away your problems because the outward results only become apparant when YOU make the first change.

It truly all stems from the changes you make, your mindset and perspective.