comparison is the thief of joy

“Both a sunset and a daisy are beautiful, yet look nothing alike.”

Social meida platforms like Tiktok and Instagram often force us into a mindset centered around comparison — what one person has either materialistically or physically is a loss on our end. It’s difficult to break free from these thoughts, but with a little bit of perspective, it’s possible.

From a purely logistical standpoint, comparing something about yourself to another person is completely futile. You live with yourself — the way your body looks, the shape of your eyes, the color of your skin, etc. — forever. Theres almost no way to change these aspects of ourselves, so therefore theres no reason to concern ourselves with it.

Think about it like this: life is simply too short and precious to worry about these small, unchangable, physical characteristics. If your goal is to feel happy and fullfilled (which it should be), then making peace with things we cannot “fix” about our appearance is necessary.

View things from a way you hadn’t before — your features are a composite of hundreds of years of various people falling in love with those same features on your ancestors.

Focus on the things you CAN control, like your attidute, the way you treat people and who you are. All of these things are far more important than what you look like on the outside.

We will change a million times throughout our lives — wrinkles will adorn our skin and age will morph our bodies like clay — but our hearts and minds are unwavering. It’s what makes us all unique, and “attractiveness” stems mostly from how you act and your personality. Confidence can make somebody look 100% more attractive, so start to internalize this and notice that how you see yourself PHYSICALLY will also change.

But the key to breaking free from comparison is recognizing that somebody elses beauty does not take away from your own.

You can reitterate a million times over that your personality is what matter most, or that life is too short to worry about your appearance, but it’s still in our human nature to compare regardless.

Once you realize though, that everyone is beautiful in their own way, you begin to look at other people and recognize how “pretty” they are, but also understand that this doesn’t mean you are any less pretty yourself.

Next time you see a girl on social media that you compare yourself to, say to yourself, “She’s pretty, but so am I.” Hearing yourself say this will engrain it into your own mind and you’ll begin to believe it.