“wdyd if your guy bsf might be in love with you?”

11/07/23

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How can you spot if your guy best friend of 8 years might be in love with you? My family, close friends, and coworkers constantly tell me that we might be “meant for each other” and that I don’t notice the way he looks at me and his actions speak volumes…but I’ve just never seen it that way other then him having a lot of love for me as his best friend because recently something occurred where he friend zoned a clingy girl for wanting to leave my surprise party cause he wanted to be with me and my family the whole night. I need the girlie’s advice :/

Our advice:

Thank you for reaching out and trusting us with some personal things regarding your life. 

I can see how it might be confusing to know if your guy best friend might have feelings for you. Before I give my advice I first want to ask you a few questions to get you thinking so please, answer the questions below to yourself before continuing the email 

- How does he make you feel when you are around him? 

- Have you ever viewed him more than a best friend? 

- Other than this recent event with your surprise birthday party, what else has happened that made you second guess whether or not he is interested in you more than just a best friend?

- How would you feel if he was in love with you? 

- Have you intentionally/ subconsciously been distant due to the thought that he might be in love with you? Whatever your answer is, think about why that might be the answer. 

Once you self-reflect on those questions, your answer might be a little bit clearer. You might be able to find the answer that you're looking for. The truth is, you won't ever gain the clarity you truly seek without asking him yourself. And sure, there might be worries of damaging the friendship or creating an awkward tension but being a firm believer in the phrase " everything happens for a reason" this will inevitably be something that you can learn from. Life is about learning from our experiences. 8 years of friendship is a long time, you have cultivated so much in the friendship that you might owe the both of you the conversation. 

However, despite my advice you need to block out all the noise Jayda, tune inward. For the answers are already within you. Trust yourself and your intuition because it will never steer you wrong. Before I sign this message off I would like to pose one final question, 

Why do you think you sought out advice in the first place?