“i am in love with 2 people”
9/8/23
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I am in love with 2 people. I quite literally don’t know why I started talking to my ex again while dating the literal love of my life, my bf is so sweet and i loved him since we were best friends, my ex and I hadn’t talked in over a year but we began being friends again. I catch myself looking more forward to my ex’s texts and replying more constantly than I do with my bf, i dont know what’s going on but i know i cant cut off either of them.
Our advice:
I'm sorry you're going through this, it's a difficult situation. This may be tough to hear, but you really need to think about which one of them you truly want. If you continue to entertain the both of them, they will eventually find out and all three of y'all will get hurt as an outcome.
I know it's difficult to choose between two people you truly care about, but consider their own needs as well as your own. If you truly cared for both of them, you wouldn't want to see them hurt over you indecisiveness. How do you think your boyfriend would feel if he finds out you're starting to regain feelings for your ex? If you truly loved your boyfriend, you wouldn't have considered reconnecting with your ex. Take some time to think about who you can see in your future, and decide from there. If you're feeling unsure about your feelings regarding your ex, it's best you talk to your boyfriend about it. Realistically, he'll probably want to end things but I can assure you it's better he finds out from you than someone else. Also, do you know how your ex truly feels? He may be flirting with you solely for his self-confidence and the fact that you'll flirt back despite your relationship status.
I know you don't want to cut either of them off, but it's your only option. I can't stress enough how unfair it is to not only you but also them for you to continue acting as you are. If you truly love your boyfriend, cut off your ex and move forward to bigger and better things with your boyfriend. Focus on your personal growth and y'all's growth as a healthy couple with genuine feelings. You have to look at the bigger picture and think on who you want to grow alongside whether that's your ex or your boyfriend. It is essential that you make a choice and stick with it.
